Master 5 came bouncing out of school swinging a Preprimary made bucket filled with coloured scraps. 'Oh Mum did you know I'm a bucket filler and you fill my bucket too'.
The last bucket I recall filling was one with napisan and a number of once white items!
So just what is bucket filling and how do they fill and empty?
Thankfully bucketfilling 101 is a handy and informative resource (www.bucketfilling101.com) and Carol McCloud's 2006 Have you filled your bucket today? provides a colourful go-to guide.
So just what is bucketfilling?
The bucket represents your mental and emotional health.
The act of filling it is when you or others convey they care about you with acts of kindness. Words, gestures and hug or spending time with you. Unfortunately buckets can also be emptied by bucket dippi g. Unkind words, excluding someone can empty your bucket, as can unhelpful self talk, dwelling on your mistakes and not looking after yourself can lead to an empty bucket.
At a more sophisticated level of understanding is the bucket lid. The bucket lid reminds us that we need to be resilient and not to let the negative thoughts and feelings generated from bucket dipping erode the good feelings and thoughts in our bucket. When unhelpful thoughts enter our heads or we hear unkind words, the bucket lid needs to be placed on our buckets so we can breathe, accept and think.
The idea of the bucket and bucket filling is as old as time, and rose to prominence in psychology circles in the 1970s. The image of the bucket filling and emptying is a simple yet effective one. Seeing ourselves as the playing an active role in both our own and others mental health through our kindess is a powerful message.
How full is your bucket? Is bucketfilling a daily joy? And importantly do you have the lid handy?